So I found out that my cousin, who is all of 25, is getting married on my 30th birthday (nothing like stealing my thunder or anything) but anyways so I'm heading home to the east for my birthday and got an invitation to the wedding (a.k.a. buy me a gift even though I haven't seen or spoken to you in 5 years). I'm just trying to figure out the following:
1. Do I go?
2. What do I buy for a gift?
3. Is it totally impersonal to just give cash and a card since I'm pretty sure he has a house and it's fully stocked with towels and dishes (at least I would like to hope he's not eating off the floor and drying himself with paper towels but I've never been invited over so I have no real idea)?
4. If I don't go, do I still have to buy/send a gift since I was invited?
5. Will he really notice if I'm not there?
6. If I'm not there, would he remember that he invited me and look for my gift?
7. I could go and TAKE a card and add my name to the one with lots of money in it...it's my fucking birthday afterall...(totally kidding - I would absolutely get caught).
8. I could buy him some cheap IKEA stuff since there is no IKEA east of Quebec City so he would have no idea that I bought it at IKEA.
So any help would be appreciated. My other option for my birthday would be to go out with my now ex-boyfriend who I only broke up with because of the distance until he moves out here, and see if he's up for a birthday gift of "friends with benefits" because I'm pretty sure he'd be into that. I think sex beats a wedding don't you?
Sex > Wedding
ReplyDeletebut if you do go, don't spend a lot of money on a gift for someone you haven't seen in 5 years. I think the proper etiquette is to spend as much as it cost for them to have you there (dinner/dance or whatever). If you don't go, I don't think you should feel obligated to send a gift. Maybe a card and something small?
I'm thinking I might drop by for the dance for a few minutes and drop off a card with $40-$50 in it and that's all he's getting. That side of the family thinks money is impersonal but they're also not the ones paying for the wedding.
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